Making amends is under rated. I once had a patient describe how her family embraced the ritual of apology all the way to the end part where the little offended person got to say, "It's OK. I forgive you." What power there is in the full acknowledgement of an offense given, intended or otherwise. And then the recipient having enough power in the situation to be heard to offer forgiveness. It is a good practice. Of course, this is much more possible and reasonable when offenses are the typical slights that happen in relationships - without violence or malicious intent. Then, letting go of a slight is powerful medicine.